Setting Realistic Goals

There has been a pattern that i have been observing with respect to Goals. The more that i set ambitious goals with stringent timelines, the more is the gap in achieving them. This has led to negative energy, self bashing and ending with a promise to meet up to the expectations set. And this cycle has continued for quite a while now. That led me to introspect on where i was going wrong and what i should do about it.

There was this article that i read recently on Steve Pavlina which was extremely insightful on Goal Setting. The crux of the matter is that we set goals with a logical mind believing logic will not fail. I mean, if 20 items are to be completed in 5 days, then the logical mind says that set 4 goals a day and you are done. But what we fail to realize is that the heart overrules logic and eventually our emotional moods takes over and disrupts the goals that are set.

The solution that Pavlina advocates is to first get to a state where your mind and heart reaches a level of coherance. For example, sit in the morning and think of all the things that makes you grateful for, in life. Or listen to a song that puts you at peace. Of course, getting to this state will not be easy and will take practice. But once this state is achieved, the goal setting process will be natural and will almost flow to the point that you will probably visualize your delight after you achieve the goals set. The most critical point here is the heart rules and only the goals that your emotional being resonates with can be achieved, with logic then defining how it can be achieved.

I am currently trying to get to a state of coherance and am focusing on waking up early and meditating for 5 minutes each morning. Hopefully, in some time (maybe in weeks or in a month), the state of flow will take over and when it does, am sure that the results will be positive.