The Paradox of Duality

Have you ever experienced wanting to move away from something and then when you get it you want the exact opposite? 

I experience it all the time. 

When I found myself challenged with an all consuming growth oriented role, I badly wanted stability. Once I moved into a stable role, I began to crave for growth and challenges. 

When I found myself surrounded by people all the time, I asked for independence. Once I had my own space, I began to crave for people and connections.

When I found myself at home on weekends, I asked for fun and travel. After a bit of travelling, all I wanted was to be home on weekends.

It used to bother me and I used to worry that maybe I did not have clarity on what I really wanted. I used to feel anxious and constantly questioned my decisions and felt self critical.

That was when I asked myself, what is it that life is teaching me through this duality paradox.

What I have come to learn is that I need to embrace fully what life comes up with. Life keeps changing and every experience has its own learning. I choose to dance in the paradox of duality and trust that the universe is teaching me something that will come in handy.

I can choose to thrive in the challenge of growth and to breathe in the space of stability. I can choose to celebrate in the joy of heart based connections and to meditate in the seat of silence. I can choose to play in the sands of adventure and to relax in the warmth of home.

Instead of questioning my intellect, when I choose to dance in the moment with what comes up, my anxiety is replaced by calmness and peace.

When you face this duality paradox, how can you choose so that life empowers you as opposed to pulling you down? What will you choose?