Exploring Life from the lens of Curiosity and Wonder

Yesterday, I got an interesting perspective on living life when I was playing with my 4 month old daughter, Srinidhi. She was lying in the cushion on the floor, and she was constantly scanning the room to stare at everything in the room she could possibly see. After singing to her, I suddenly felt like laying down on the floor, right next to her. When I looked up at the ceiling and the room, I felt very light. I remembered my childhood, and thought about how I felt when I used to look up at the stars from the open terrace in my house. 

What would it be, if we can look and approach at life in the same way, with endless curiosity and a deep sense of wonder? 

Why a Co-Active Relationship works

In the last post, we explored about the equal partnership between the Co-active coach and a typical client with big dreams. But, even assuming it is a equal relationship, why would anybody want to share their biggest dreams and fears with their coach? Why would we risk being vulnerable?

We live in a world where we feel judged every single minute, in everything we do. That begins with our very own self critic, who often takes great pleasure at pointing out all the things that we screwed up. When we muster up the courage to divulge our hopes and fears  with our loved ones and close friends, there are times where we feel supported but there are also times where we get to receive advice that comes from the space of judgement. Eventually, we get to a space where we hold onto our dreams within ourselves and sometimes even convince ourselves that it is not worth aspiring towards.

The strength of the Co-Active relationship is the safe space of absolute non judgement. In this space, vulnerability and authentic expression of dreams and desires are celebrated. In this space, the client gets to connect deeply and powerfully with themselves and get clarity on why they pursue their dreams and what steps they will take to achieve it. 

In the safe space of absolute non judgement and vulnerability. as a client, you get to see and feel the best of who you are, at your core. When you feel that. you automatically step up your game and run towards achieving your dreams. As a client, I got to experience that and that is why I believe the Co-Active relationship works. 

If you are looking for a safe space to connect and talk about your dreams, I am available for a quick 30 minute sample session. Please message me, if interested.

Co-Active Relationship between a Coach and a Client

The relationship between a Consultant and a Client is well defined. A client comes up with issues/problems and asks for the consultant's expertise to provide a resolution to the issues and add value through the insights/innovative ideas that they provide. The relationship between a therapist and a client is also well defined. The client comes up with personal, deep seated issues and the therapist focuses on the issue by going into the past and helping the client heal and make peace with their issues.

The relationship between a co-active coach and client is different. Here's how:

In both the above scenarios, the power or expertise is vested with the consultant/therapist. As a client, you go in with the mindset of acquiring expertise/advice through which you can resolve a problem.

But in a co-active relationship, there is no power or expertise equation. The coach and the client are equal partners with the coach providing the space for the clients to uncover by themselves what they truly want and how they want to go about achieving their dreams.

Intrigued? If you are interested, let me know and I will schedule a free 30 min free sample session. It is best to experience it for yourself, and see whether this fits in with what you want! 

Why Co-Active Coaching for You

The very first thought that pops up for many folks when they hear about coaching is that 'Hmm sounds interesting but I do not think is for me'. People associate coaching with consulting and assume that coaches provide guidance or advice on the things that matter in their career or relationships or other key areas in their lives. The question becomes 'Why do I need someone to tell me how to lead my life, my career and my relationships'??

The first step is to address this assumption. While some coaches do provide services that are akin to consulting services, Co-Active coaching is as far to consulting as it could get. Co-Active coaching is all about the clients uncovering what truly matters to them and then deciding on their own what they need to do to achieving their dreams.

Well then, the question that pops up next is, what is the coach's role and why cannot I uncover it on my own??

It is absolutely possible that each one of us can uncover our desires and dreams and purpose on our own. But more often than not, we limit our dreams as we also see the huge obstacles in our path. We talk ourselves into lowering our desires and our dreams and convincing ourselves that it is fine not to want more. The desires and dreams then becomes constrained by the stories and beliefs we hold about ourselves. 

In the presence of a co-active coach, a client can uncover the core of who they are, understand their values, get to visualize the impact that they want to create in their world and get to raise their self awareness to the tee. It is no wonder that every single achiever has one thing in common. They have incredible self awareness and an unshakable self belief as a result of that awareness.  

I will address the question of how the co-active coach gets the clients to raise their self awareness in two easy words :'Sample Session' :)

If you are interested, it will be more meaningful for you to experience this, to understand how this works and more importantly if it works for you. Please let me know and I will schedule a quick 30 minute call with you!

Next up, I will address the model of a Co-Active relationship.